Distractions That Get in the Way of Progress and Abundance

One of the commonalties we share is that once we achieve our goal, we then come up with a new desire. That is part of being human. We see it in children all the time. They bother you to get them a new toy. They really, really, really need it. You finally get it for them. The excitement is there. After awhile, however, they begin to focus on the next new thing that they need. How often have you seen that happen? Children have an amazing ability to get what they want. They are using the Law of Attraction all the time. It comes so easily to them.

As adults, we have different truths and realize that it is not that easy. Life is more complex. Putting your own desires and goals aside happens when you get busy taking care of others. There are so many demands that get placed on us as adults and there is never enough time to do everything. In order to juggle all of our responsibilities, something needs to be placed on the back burner. You forget what it is that you want for yourself or what your aspirations are. What happened to the dreams and ideals you had when you first started a career?

Defining a goal or a dream is the easy part. We all have the ability to dream. That is using the Law of Attraction to manifest your dreams. The challenge is that little voice that tells you there is a price to pay if you reach your goal. That is what I have begun to term the “yes, but…” syndrome. What is the downside of reaching your goal or peak potential? What keeps you from tapping into success and stimulating your personal economy?

Once you have begun to identify the doubt and negative thoughts you can begin to clear them. Some of the conflicts that come up include:
•Being successful will take away time from family and friends.
•If you are successful, you will have to work harder.
•You don’t deserve to succeed because of something you did earlier in your life.
•You are afraid that you will not be loved or would be rejected if you were successful.

Becoming aware of the doubt and internal conflict is the first step to making change. You don’t have to have them. I know. I had to get over my fear of public speaking and have my first presentation ready in four months. Thoughts can change. Tony Robbins states that “80% of success is psychology and 20% is inner conflicts.”

Now that you have recognized your doubting voice and “yes, buts…” you can begin to clear them. Identify them. Who did you hear this from before? Is this actually your concern or is it someone else’s concern that you heard repeatedly and actually internalized as your own

The Law of Attraction and the Emotional Freedom Technique are the perfect couple. LoA helps you to create your goal and EFT does the clean up work of removing the debris that gets in the way of reaching your goal. Using them will help you to tap into your success and to stimulate your personal economy. This will help you to raise your vibration and increase the success of getting what you want. They make a powerful combination.

If you are not familiar with the Emotional Freedom Technique go to this article on my website at http://www.kolpiacounseling.com/article-eft.html

Pick a “yes, but…” that you have as a block to your goal. We will tap for it.

Setup: "Even though I have doubts about my goals and what would change in my life if I reached my goal, I want to choose success."
"Even though a part of me is comfortable with where I am although I would rather be somewhere else, I choose to feel calm and confident about my ability to reach my goal."
"Even though a part of me is afraid to let go of my doubts and worry, I accept who I am and how I feel."
***Now for the phrases that focus on the problem***
Eyebrow: "I am used to doubting my abilities."
Side of Eye: "I'm afraid to change because I have become comfortable with where I am."
Under Eye: "What if I started focusing on my goal?"
Nose: "I am great at making excuses for staying where I am, what if I could change?"
Chin: "I don't feel safe about the unknown if I began to change."
Collarbone: "A part of me is afraid to change."
Under Arm: "I'm afraid to let this “yes, but…” go."
Head: "I'm willing to change my focus and frequency."
***Now for the positive focus on the solution***
Eyebrow: "I want to feel excited about this goal."
Side of Eye: "I choose to change my focus right now."
Under Eye: "I choose to release my doubts and worry."
Nose: "I appreciate how good thinking about my goal makes me feel."
Chin: "I am willing to change my thoughts and focus."
Collarbone: "I can be positive as I begin to focus on my goal."
Under Arm: "I appreciate feeling inspired to choose a goal."
Head: "I feel inspired to choose a new direction to move in."
Take a deep breath.

Continue to tap for each negative thought that keeps you from reaching your goal. You will begin to feel a change in your energy as you tap into success and stimulate your personal economy.

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What Is It You Wish For?

How many times have you heard someone tell you "be careful of what you wish for because it might come true?" If you are familiar with the Law of Attraction that is a truth. You will manifest what you are focusing on. If you are focusing on the negative, then you get negative. On the other hand, if you are focusing on something positive then you get positive. The only time when that would not be true is if you are focusing on something positive because you feel so bad and are coming from a place of lacking.

An example of focusing on something positive from a place of negativity would be "I am 25 pounds overweight and I don't want to be this heavy anymore." Your brain does not "hear" the words "no", "not", "can't", "don't" or any other negative word of that nature. Therefore when you say that you are 25 pounds overweight and don't want to be this heavy anymore, your brain will tune into the verb and the noun. It will hear 25 pounds overweight and heavy. No matter how hard you try to lose weight, it won't work for the long run.

What should you say then? Find a way to state your goal from the positive and in the present. Describe how you will feel when you are at your ideal weight. How the clothes feel, how light you feel and how proud you are at what you have accomplished. "I love weighing ____________ (put in your ideal weight). I feel so light and my clothes look great on me." What are some other positive things that you might feel at your ideal weight? Include those. Be as descriptive as you can. As you focus on the positive you are more likely to act in ways that will allow you to reach your ideal weight.

If you are not familiar with the Emotional Freedom Technique go to this article on my website at http://www.kolpiacounseling.com/article-eft.html

Use the Emotional Freedom Technique to help you reach your goal
Set up: Even though I don't feel that I can reach my ideal goal of ____________, I deeply and completely love and accept myself
Even though no matter how hard I try things don't really seem to change, I deeply and completely love and accept myself
Even though things have been this way for a long time and I am not sure that I can reach this goal, I deeply and completely love and accept all parts of myself
Eyebrows: I don't feel I can reach my ideal goal of __________________
Side of Eye: I have tried to make changes, but they are too difficult
Under Eye: Even when I make changes they never last
Under Nose: I don't want to work that hard
Under Lips: There are some things I don't want to stop doing
Collarbone: Maybe a part of me wants to make this change
Under Arms: I know that I can do things differently if I really wanted to
Top of Head: Maybe I can make this change if I choose to and know that I will feel better about things once I get started
Take a deep breath

Remember, focus on the positive and you will begin to see amazing things happen