Distractions That Get in the Way of Progress and Abundance

One of the commonalties we share is that once we achieve our goal, we then come up with a new desire. That is part of being human. We see it in children all the time. They bother you to get them a new toy. They really, really, really need it. You finally get it for them. The excitement is there. After awhile, however, they begin to focus on the next new thing that they need. How often have you seen that happen? Children have an amazing ability to get what they want. They are using the Law of Attraction all the time. It comes so easily to them.

As adults, we have different truths and realize that it is not that easy. Life is more complex. Putting your own desires and goals aside happens when you get busy taking care of others. There are so many demands that get placed on us as adults and there is never enough time to do everything. In order to juggle all of our responsibilities, something needs to be placed on the back burner. You forget what it is that you want for yourself or what your aspirations are. What happened to the dreams and ideals you had when you first started a career?

Defining a goal or a dream is the easy part. We all have the ability to dream. That is using the Law of Attraction to manifest your dreams. The challenge is that little voice that tells you there is a price to pay if you reach your goal. That is what I have begun to term the “yes, but…” syndrome. What is the downside of reaching your goal or peak potential? What keeps you from tapping into success and stimulating your personal economy?

Once you have begun to identify the doubt and negative thoughts you can begin to clear them. Some of the conflicts that come up include:
•Being successful will take away time from family and friends.
•If you are successful, you will have to work harder.
•You don’t deserve to succeed because of something you did earlier in your life.
•You are afraid that you will not be loved or would be rejected if you were successful.

Becoming aware of the doubt and internal conflict is the first step to making change. You don’t have to have them. I know. I had to get over my fear of public speaking and have my first presentation ready in four months. Thoughts can change. Tony Robbins states that “80% of success is psychology and 20% is inner conflicts.”

Now that you have recognized your doubting voice and “yes, buts…” you can begin to clear them. Identify them. Who did you hear this from before? Is this actually your concern or is it someone else’s concern that you heard repeatedly and actually internalized as your own

The Law of Attraction and the Emotional Freedom Technique are the perfect couple. LoA helps you to create your goal and EFT does the clean up work of removing the debris that gets in the way of reaching your goal. Using them will help you to tap into your success and to stimulate your personal economy. This will help you to raise your vibration and increase the success of getting what you want. They make a powerful combination.

If you are not familiar with the Emotional Freedom Technique go to this article on my website at http://www.kolpiacounseling.com/article-eft.html

Pick a “yes, but…” that you have as a block to your goal. We will tap for it.

Setup: "Even though I have doubts about my goals and what would change in my life if I reached my goal, I want to choose success."
"Even though a part of me is comfortable with where I am although I would rather be somewhere else, I choose to feel calm and confident about my ability to reach my goal."
"Even though a part of me is afraid to let go of my doubts and worry, I accept who I am and how I feel."
***Now for the phrases that focus on the problem***
Eyebrow: "I am used to doubting my abilities."
Side of Eye: "I'm afraid to change because I have become comfortable with where I am."
Under Eye: "What if I started focusing on my goal?"
Nose: "I am great at making excuses for staying where I am, what if I could change?"
Chin: "I don't feel safe about the unknown if I began to change."
Collarbone: "A part of me is afraid to change."
Under Arm: "I'm afraid to let this “yes, but…” go."
Head: "I'm willing to change my focus and frequency."
***Now for the positive focus on the solution***
Eyebrow: "I want to feel excited about this goal."
Side of Eye: "I choose to change my focus right now."
Under Eye: "I choose to release my doubts and worry."
Nose: "I appreciate how good thinking about my goal makes me feel."
Chin: "I am willing to change my thoughts and focus."
Collarbone: "I can be positive as I begin to focus on my goal."
Under Arm: "I appreciate feeling inspired to choose a goal."
Head: "I feel inspired to choose a new direction to move in."
Take a deep breath.

Continue to tap for each negative thought that keeps you from reaching your goal. You will begin to feel a change in your energy as you tap into success and stimulate your personal economy.

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Humor and EFT

I actually have a firm belief that my life is a comedy. I am not saying that to minimize what I do and how I work. What I feel is that there is two sides, or more, in everything. I can look at what is going on in my life from a place of lack or a place of strength and abundance.

I try to bring that into my work. Even when tapping with clients on issues, I try to look for parallels and see a way that I can bring humor into it. If you are really interested in using humor with EFT, David Lake and Steve Wells are excellent resources. Humor and laughing help to release energy that supports change. It takes something that is very serious and brings some lightness to it. Think about it, how often have you felt that something was a crisis and then looking back on it you were able to see it wasn't a crises at all.

In my group this week, one of the participants had her mother die that day. I felt honored that she chose to attend the group session for emotional support. Although there were tears in the group session, there was also a lot of laughter. She left feeling much better than when she walked in the door. I spoke with her the next day and she appeared to be handling her grief far better than expected due to the work that was done in a safe and trusting space. feel that humor has an important place in counseling, as well as all of life, when used appropriately and with respect.

LoA encourages you to always find the positive in every situation.
Loren

The Power of EFT and LoA Combined

Being part of a mastermind group is similar to being in a therapy group. Part of what happens is that you might think that you were the only one. All of a sudden someone else is talking about something and you can relate so deeply to what is being said. As a result a connection is developed between you and that other person that was not there before. In addition, what you had experienced becomes validated.

I have been using EFT with reframes for quite some time. During the past several months I have begun to bring LOA into the picture. As a result the way that I use reframes has changed. Combining EFT with LOA has helped to strengthen the mind, body and soul connection. Since I specialize with individuals that have addictions, being able to have increased emotional awareness is crucial to progress and sobriety. With this combination I am able to easily increase their emotional awareness, focus on positive reframes and to become more comfortable in the direction that they want to go in.

People are able to feel the difference in their energy when having positive or negative thoughts. Using EFT and LOA combined helps to increase the positive intentions and to remove blocks more effectively and rapidly than using either LOA or EFT alone.

Take care,
Loren

Law of Attraction and Intention

Here is a story about LoA in action from earlier today.

I have been working with a client to get her into residential tx. The program that I was referring her to was not on her insurance panel. She asked me to step in as an advocate and speak with the insurance agency. If you have ever dealt with insurance companies, you would know that they do not like to spend money. Asking them to pay in-network benefits to an out of network agency was highly unlikely.

Before I called, I set a positive intention that I was going to make it work for this client. I spoke to the ins rep for quite some time and she needed to review it with their physician. She warned me ahead of time that the answer most likely would be "no way."

She called back 15 minutes later saying they would not make the exception. I called the client and we looked at options.

Here is where LoA comes in. Four hours later I get a call from the ins. rep. Apparently this residential program will be in-network with the ins company next month. Therefore, they are going to make an exception with my client. Well, I did a happy dance listening to that voicemail. I called my client to tell her the good news and she is now making the arrangements to go to the program that she originally felt was best suited for her needs.

Take care.
Loren

What Is It You Wish For?

How many times have you heard someone tell you "be careful of what you wish for because it might come true?" If you are familiar with the Law of Attraction that is a truth. You will manifest what you are focusing on. If you are focusing on the negative, then you get negative. On the other hand, if you are focusing on something positive then you get positive. The only time when that would not be true is if you are focusing on something positive because you feel so bad and are coming from a place of lacking.

An example of focusing on something positive from a place of negativity would be "I am 25 pounds overweight and I don't want to be this heavy anymore." Your brain does not "hear" the words "no", "not", "can't", "don't" or any other negative word of that nature. Therefore when you say that you are 25 pounds overweight and don't want to be this heavy anymore, your brain will tune into the verb and the noun. It will hear 25 pounds overweight and heavy. No matter how hard you try to lose weight, it won't work for the long run.

What should you say then? Find a way to state your goal from the positive and in the present. Describe how you will feel when you are at your ideal weight. How the clothes feel, how light you feel and how proud you are at what you have accomplished. "I love weighing ____________ (put in your ideal weight). I feel so light and my clothes look great on me." What are some other positive things that you might feel at your ideal weight? Include those. Be as descriptive as you can. As you focus on the positive you are more likely to act in ways that will allow you to reach your ideal weight.

If you are not familiar with the Emotional Freedom Technique go to this article on my website at http://www.kolpiacounseling.com/article-eft.html

Use the Emotional Freedom Technique to help you reach your goal
Set up: Even though I don't feel that I can reach my ideal goal of ____________, I deeply and completely love and accept myself
Even though no matter how hard I try things don't really seem to change, I deeply and completely love and accept myself
Even though things have been this way for a long time and I am not sure that I can reach this goal, I deeply and completely love and accept all parts of myself
Eyebrows: I don't feel I can reach my ideal goal of __________________
Side of Eye: I have tried to make changes, but they are too difficult
Under Eye: Even when I make changes they never last
Under Nose: I don't want to work that hard
Under Lips: There are some things I don't want to stop doing
Collarbone: Maybe a part of me wants to make this change
Under Arms: I know that I can do things differently if I really wanted to
Top of Head: Maybe I can make this change if I choose to and know that I will feel better about things once I get started
Take a deep breath

Remember, focus on the positive and you will begin to see amazing things happen

Tapping for Health

I am excited to finally have a blog. This has been a goal I have been working toward for the past year. As with most goals, it started out as an idea. There were pros and cons to this idea as well as stumbling blocks that I had to overcome. Since this blog was something I felt strongly about, I realized that I had to learn what was needed for a blog. I started to do research and the idea began to develop.

With most long term goals, there are parts you are excited about and areas where there might be resistance. Finding the obstacles were easy and I needed to address my resistance in order to avoid sabotaging this goal. Around that point I used the Law of Attraction to remove the negative thoughts. According to Carol Look, EFT Master, “The Law of Attraction means: "Like attracts like". Negative thoughts and feelings attract negative experiences. Positive, joyful thoughts and feelings attract more joyful experiences. Simple. But, not always easy!”

To avoid sabotage I had to replace my negative thoughts with a positive focus. In order to move forward with thisr plan I needed to be honest about my feelings concerning this project. I knew that any resistance or negative thinking had the ability to keep me from reaching this goal. Myr biggest barrier was the thoughts that I had about writing on a regular basis. I discussed the barriers to having a blog, having a schedule and began to reframe those thoughts into positive outlooks. Instead of having areas of resistance for writing I developed small steps toward goals and challenges that I could rise up to and overcome.

I feel this blog is about learning. I had an original idea and saw that as a starting place. The plan was a living document that was flexible and fluid. The idea continued to progress as I learned more and the goal became clearer. I will continue to learn things about myself as I develop articles and the blog grows. I hope to give you useful information that will be helpful for your personal growth as well. I am open to suggestions and feedback, please feel free to email me at contact@kolpiacounseling.com

I am excited to share my thoughts with you,
Loren Fogelman